How to Get Started with Couple-Centered Recovery® for Couples

We just learned about Couple-Centered Recovery®  How can we get started with this model?

Welcome! We're so glad you’re here exploring Couple-Centered Recovery® (CCR). It’s a powerful, healing model for couples navigating betrayal trauma and addiction, and we’d love to walk you through how to get started.

Here’s a simple roadmap based on this model:

1. Understand the Model (Orientation Phase)

Start by getting the big-picture overview of CCR.

  • Watch the CCR Overview Webinar for a foundational understanding of the three-phase process:

    • Phase 1: Safety & Stabilization

    • Phase 2: Grieving Together

    • Phase 3: Rebuilding & Growth
      This gives you the framework and philosophy behind the model​.

  • Download Dr. Jake Porter's book,  “Breaking Barriers, Building Bridges” . The book is a brief and concise description of the model with action items for you to practice as a couple.
  • Take a look at the phases within the model. Can you see what phases you're in as individuals? As a couple? (Remember we're never in just one phase, and we may move back and forth through phases as we progress. )

2. Engage in the Educational Pathway Together

Choose Connection Academy (CCA) Level 1 is your next best step:

  • It’s designed for couples in early recovery and focuses on building safety, understanding trauma, and regulating emotional responses.

  • You can begin at any time, and it's completely virtual.

  • You’ll learn about trauma’s impact on the brain, attachment systems, affect regulation, and how to start relational healing at a safe pace​​.

  • Work at your own pace on your own with BASIC, or get personalized coaching with Dr. Jake with the GOLD program.

3. Consider Professional In-Depth Personal Support

Dr. Jake’s team at Daring Ventures offers:

  • Therapeutic Intensives (including formal disclosures supported by polygraph, if relevant)​

  • Couple Coaching or Therapy using the CCR framework

  • Specialized groups for betrayed and betraying partners

  • They work with couples internationally via virtual and in-person options​.

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4. Begin Daily Relational Practice (Optional but Powerful)

The 40 Day Choose Connection Challenge is a great supplement:

  • Daily micro-practices via email to build emotional and relational skills

  • Best for couples who are not in crisis, but ready to invest in deeper connection work​.

5. Prepare for Disclosure (if not done yet)

If your relationship includes problematic sexual behavior or secrets, a formal disclosure may be part of your journey.