You didn't come this far
just to keep surviving.
Imagine a Sunday morning where you aren't already exhausted before the day begins. Where you don't lie there in the dark running through everything that's broken, everything that was hidden, everything you don't know how to fix. Where, instead, you reach over — and it feels safe to do that. Where it's received.
Imagine sitting at the dinner table and feeling, for the first time in what might be years, like the people across from you are actually yours. Like the ground beneath your family is solid again. Like the worst thing that ever happened to your marriage is no longer the thing that defines it.
That is not a unrealistic. That is what couples who do this work actually describe on the other side. Not perfection — but something real. Something earned. Something that holds.
But right now, you're probably here
You're exhausted in a way that sleep doesn't fix. Because it isn't just tiredness — it's the weight of not knowing who to be in this marriage anymore, or whether there's even a marriage worth saving.
One of you is carrying a secret life that finally came to light — or a pattern of betrayal that has quietly hollowed out everything that should have felt safe. And now the two of you are either fighting constantly, or not talking at all, or going through the motions in a way that feels emptier than silence.
You've Googled everything. You've maybe tried therapy. You've read the books. And you're still here — still hurting, still not sure if things can actually change — because nothing so far has gotten to the root of what broke.
You don't need more information. You need a way through.
Choose Connection Academy is a structured, guided program that takes couples through the Couple–Centered Recovery® model — developed by Dr. Jake Porter from his own recovery and two decades of clinical work with hundreds of couples. It puts your marriage at the center of the healing — not as an afterthought, but as the engine of it.
Because here's what those parallel recovery tracks miss: the most powerful healing relationship in your life isn't with a therapist or a support group. It's with each other. And when you learn to use that bond — even a broken one — as the foundation for recovery, something shifts that individual work alone simply cannot reach.
Couples who enter this process are reaching the far end of healing in half the time. Not because it's easy. Because it's real. Because it's done together.
Choose your next step
Not sure where to begin? There's no wrong door.
Whether you're still trying to understand if this approach is right for you, or you're ready to find out if you're a fit for the Academy — we have a next step that meets you exactly where you are.
Still Exploring
Watch the free overview webinar
A short, honest look at why this approach works — and why most other models leave couples stuck. Watch it together, or on your own first. No signup required.
Ready to take a step
Book an Exploration Meeting
A session where we get a clear picture of where you are, and whether Choose Connection Academy is the right fit right now. Spots are limited.
Both options are a genuine next step. We only work with couples we believe we can truly help.
- Evidence-based as well as faith-friendly
- Designed for both partners — together
- Built on two decades of clinical work
If your relationship is stuck in mistrust, disconnection, and pain after betrayal — you’re not alone. But staying stuck comes at a cost: the longer you wait, the harder it gets, and the more it impacts you and your family.
That’s why I’ve created an all-new Couple–Centered Recovery® online program — a powerful blend of digital education, homework, and live group coaching designed to help couples heal together.
The truth is, you can’t rebuild trust without emotional and relational safety. But with the right skills and tools, you can break dysfunctional patterns, restore affection, and create the secure, connected bond you both long for — and your kids deserve to witness.
This program is for couples who:
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Have faced betrayal and are serious about rebuilding
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Are ready to invest time and effort in real, lasting change
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Want a proven system to guide them — no matter where they are in recovery - no waiting for "individual recovery" before rebuilding something NEW.
I’ll walk with you step by step — showing you exactly how to rebuild trust, reconnect deeply, and write a new story for your relationship.
If you’re ready to stop the pain from cycling — and start creating the connection you crave — don’t wait.
Your healing starts now. Don’t wait for things to get worse. I’d love to help you find your way back to each other.
If this speaks to you, don’t hesitate to book a call with our Director of Couple's Care, Pam Blizzard, and see if this new program is a good fit for you.
Eagerly anticipating our potential collaboration,
Champion for Strong, Transformative Relationships
We’re so confident in the value of our program that we’re willing to offer a money-back guarantee if you don’t see results within the first 4 weeks - Terms and conditions apply, more about that here
A roadmap — not just resources.
Choose Connection Academy takes you through a carefully sequenced curriculum built on adult attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and two decades of frontline clinical work with couples just like yours. You will always know where you are and where you're headed.
Objective One: Return to safety and stability so the deeper work can begin.
To insure the quality and integrity of the group program, and that each participant is poised for success, we require that you both participate in a short Zoom interview with an Academy team member. Find a time on our calendar that works for you both:
Create safety and stability for the relationship after the discovery of betrayal.
With the tools and personalized guidance provided in this program, together you can achieve these foundational key results:
- Both members of the couple will have a basic understanding their own and each other's experience of addiction and/or betrayal through the Couple-Centered Recovery® paradigm.
- Both members of the couple will demonstrate skills for both self-regulation and co-regulation in the face of trauma triggers, cognitive distortions, and defense mechanisms.
- The betrayed partner will establish and communicate boundaries that feels empowering. Boundaries that are a roadmap for how to access their deepest emotional intimacy.
- The betraying partner will demonstrate a growing capacity for empathy and be confident in the face of the betrayed's pain.
- Both members of the couple write shared goals for their recovery plan.
- The couple has identified and begun a path toward a formal full disclosure process as an initial goal for recovery and healing. (This helps couples early after discovery, and is not a requirement of this program.)
- - We do not actually facilitate your disclosure during this program. However we can refer you to our trusted partners who can facilitate this with you if you choose to.
- - If you've already had disclosure, this level can still benefit each partner by increasing other vital recovery skills related to radical honesty, impact and restitution.
Objective Two: Face the grief of what's been lost and create a new shared story
Now that you have safety and stability as a couple, together you'll achieve these vital goals that continue to build safety, trust and empathy, as well as communication skills to navigate emotional conversations:
- You'll both begin to understand the experience of betrayal discovery through the paradigm of grief work.
- During this phase, you both will be guided through the process of creating and exchanging emotionally-focused impact and restitution letters.
- You'll both be able to skillfully engage in healing grief conversations utilizing the REVAMPS process.
- As a couple, you both begin exploring underlying dysfunctional dynamics that emerge in the trauma and grief process and move toward more a empowered relational dynamic.
To insure the quality and integrity of the group program, and that each participant is poised for success, we require that you both participate in a short Zoom interview with an Academy team member. Find a time on our calendar that works for you both:
Objective 3: Revisioning the Relationship (Coming Soon)
The next natural phase of relationship recovery in the Couple-Centered Recovery® is the continued growth that springs from the transformational work you've done so far.
You'll create new goals, re-design your relationship with new shared understanding of safety, stability, and expanded capacities to meet life head on and manage it together putting the safety and priority of your relationship first.
(This Objective is currently in development. More information will be provided here as it becomes available.)
What's Included in the Program?
The self-directed learning includes webinar-style videos that play a crucial role in your learning. The educational videos that will increase your knowledge and understanding of key relationship skills offer several benefits:
- Flexibility and Accessibility:
Class starts on your own schedule. Videos can be accessed anytime, anywhere, at your own convenience. Even for those who may have busy schedules or prefer to learn at their own pace. - You choose your experience:
You have control over the pace at which you progress through the material. There are no deadlines to meet. - Visual and Auditory Learning: Videos combine visual and auditory elements, catering to different learning styles. Visual learners can benefit from the slide presentations, and on-screen text, while auditory learners can absorb information through Dr. Porter's teaching using narration and dialogue.
- Engagement and Interest: These well-produced videos will capture your attention and maintain your interest in the subject matter. Dr. Jake's teaching style using metaphor, storytelling, and multimedia elements can make learning more enjoyable and motivating for self-directed learners
Watching videos in order to to know and understand is helpful.
But we invite you to go deeper and internalize that knowledge with worksheets and exercises that provide:
- Reinforcement of Concepts
Worksheets provide an opportunity for you to reinforce the concepts you learned in the video. By applying what you've learned to solve problems or answer questions, you can deepen your understanding of the material. - Active Engagement
Completing worksheets requires active engagement with the material. Instead of passively watching a video, learners are actively thinking, analyzing, and applying the information, which can enhance comprehension and retention. - Practice and Skill Development
Worksheets offer a chance for couples to practice the skills and techniques demonstrated in the video. Repetition through practice helps solidify learning and build mastery over these new concepts and skills. - Assessment of Understanding
Worksheets can serve as a form of assessment to gauge your understanding of the material covered in the video. By reviewing your answers, you can identify areas where you may need further review or clarification. - Independent Learning
Completing worksheets independently fosters self-directed learning skills. It encourages learners to take ownership of their learning process, work at their own pace, and develop problem-solving abilities.
Overall, integrating worksheets with video content can enhance the learning experience by promoting active engagement, reinforcing concepts, and providing opportunities for practice and assessment.
In addition to the self-directed features, you also get:
These concepts are ground-breaking, and learning new skills time, effort and practice. Sometimes we get stuck or need additional personalized guidance. We're here to meet you where you are: personalized coaching.
We provide a variety of ways to get personal guidance on using the Couple-Centered Recovery Model
- Weekly Group Coaching Zoom Meetings with Dr. Jake
We offer you weekly group coaching zoom meeting calls, designed to meet you where you are in your learning. Because the coaching calls are not focused on any particular module or topic, you can ask questions and get coaching guidance on what your questions are that week, what you're stuck on or what you're struggling with this week. The coaching calls are interactive, not lecture. Speak up at any time and share or ask a question. Or, leave your camera off and just listen in. Your choice. - "Hot Seat" Coaching
We routinely ask for volunteer couples to be on the "Hot Seat" for coaching, during the group coaching call. The volunteer Couple is given up to 3 minutes to describe what skills their struggling with, or what problem they're grappling with that week. Dr. Jake provides feedback and coaching for that couple through practicing these new Couple-Centered skills. - Couples Journey Check ins
We offer at no additional cost, the opportunity to meet as a couple with a Couple-Centered Recovery trained coach, to assess your progress and roadblocks in learning the essential skills of establishing safety and stability, grieving and transforming together as a couple and reconnecting. This isn't coaching or accountability, but a checkin for progress on learning. - Private one on one asynchronous video/audio coaching
Record up to 3 minutes of private audio or video, as an individual or couple, and upload to our private confidential files area. Dr. Jake will review your recording and provide personalized, confidential video or audio feedback coaching within approximately 2-3 business days (may vary according to holidays and other scheduling.) - Community Peer Support and Coaching
Join our moderated community of couples in this program, where all Academy members can share wins, ask questions and get feedback from other couples on the same journey as you. Our community will be monitored by coaches certified in the Couple-Centered Recovery® model, the Director of Couples Care and at times, Dr. Jake.
To insure the quality and integrity of the group program, and that each participant is poised for success, we require that you both participate in a short Zoom interview with an Academy team member. Find a time on our calendar that works for you both:
Questions We Get:
What participants are saying:
"I get so much out of these sessions. We come out of them feeling hopeful and I feel excited to try the things I've learned."
"Your heart for the partner’s needs and for connection makes the information applicable."
"We practiced empathy role-playing like Dr Jake suggested directly after the Group Session and found it very helpful. The next morning, I faced a difficult trigger and I feel like my husband practiced his new skills successfully. I am hopeful."
"I feel more confident knowing that I have a lot of other people who support/agree with me and I’m starting to find my voice to stop being 'victimized'"
"It's been helpful to work on and talk through course content or what was talked about in group. I think we have been able to have more..."guided" (?) or deliberate discussions, and that has been good. Thank you!"
"Thank you so much - I feel things shifting and changing for me - not all clarity and rainbows, but things are happening...and it seems new."
"I do want to share with you that each time we watch a video or listen to Dr Porter, I realize how much I might just learn here and how much will be solidified for my earlier learning."